Project Management in Science

Know when to fold 'em

7/1/2018

The Dip: A Little Book That Teaches You When to Quit (and When to Stick), by Seth Godin. Pub 2007

I was led to this brief book via this article. I'm dealing with some team issues at work (people leaving), and I am struggling to understand the choices that people are making. I wasn't (seriously) looking at quitting myself, but to make sense of why others were. The article didn't really help with that, but I was intrigued by the idea that smart people can realistically rationalize quitting, so I picked up this book. I'd read a few blog posts and articles (mostly in Fast Company) by Seth Godin, and a few books by the illustrator Hugh McLeod, so I was expecting something pretty good, if not great. Sadly, I was disappointed.

Like so many books in this genre, a good idea or interesting concept is written about in a shouty, folksy way, initially intended to both shake up the reader's thinking and get them comfortable with the notion that the writer is speaking to them, and then the horse is flogged repeatedly (albeit inconsistently) for many pages until one feels like they don't remember or care about the original concept, they just want to get away from this person. It feels like being in a professional development seminar in a room that is too small to sneak out of, and you're regretting having sat in the front row as the presenter is always looking right at you.

Essentially, understanding The Dip means recognizing and evaluating the cost-benefit to yourself of sticking with a course of action or quitting/changing it. The simple examples are things like waiting in a line for something. When the queue is taking longer (much longer) than you expected, and time is running out or your thinking about all the other things you need to do, the tendency is to consider quitting as a waste of the time already spent - and so you stay in the line (you stick). But at this point - in The Dip - the suggestion is that you shouldn't give as much weight to that, as you cannot recover that "investment" but look ahead and consider the cost-benefit of walking out of the line right then. The trick is to look only at now and the future, and consider things like what else you could be accomplishing/directing your energies to, the real value of the thing you're working towards, and a recalculation of how much you have left to do or wait, and ask "is it worth it for what I'm trying to achieve?" Now replace "grocery line" with job, relationships, hobby, any endeavour, and that's the concept.

In general, I'm in favour of philosophies that encourage thinking about the choices we make as people and acknowledging and accepting the consequences of those choices. Don't want to train everyday and manage your diet carefully and endure aches and pains and inclement weather and expensive gear? Then choosing "world champion triathlete" as your goal is not realistic, or likely to be satisfying. As Godin says (somewhere amidst all the shouting), BEING a CEO looks easy, but BECOMING a CEO takes work, luck, and endurance through the Dip, and recognizing that the energy needed to meet that goal means you have to choose to direct yourself away from (quit) other things to focus on getting beyond the CEO dip.

The Dip does tackle an element that often tricks people: the joy of starting something new. Whenever we take on something new - hobby, sport, job, relationship, resolution - the beginning part is always somewhat easy or enjoyable. The first few classes at the gym in our new sport or exercise feel wonderful, and we're excited by how this new thing makes us feel. We see our potential in this, and the potential for it to be come important and transformative. The first few weeks in a new job are all about meeting new people and learning new things, seeing how we might make an impact here - all of these are exhilarating. And then the honeymoon ends. "The Dip is the long slog between starting and mastery." Even if you enjoyed those first few weeks at the running club, the podium at Ironman is still a long way away, and continuing to train is no guarantee that you'll get there.

This idea of quitting something to make room for something else is anathema to those who say "you can have it all", but is to me just common sense (and also physics - there is literally only so much of me to go around). One can almost see this as a variation on the Serenity Prayer, or the Tuckman model of group development. Or of this strangely motivational demotivational slogan.

Anyway, a lot of words about a book I didn't especially enjoy, but the message and concepts are definitely worth considering. The original NYT article does a better job covering this concept than the book did.

So in the immortal words of Kenny Rogers:

You got to know when to hold ‘em, know when to fold ‘em
Know when to walk away, and know when to run…
…the secret to surviving
Is knowin’ what to throw away, and knowin’ what to keep
‘Cause every hand’s a winner, and every hand’s a loser…

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A bit more about networking

6/10/2018

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Scenario: you're at a conference event, and you find yourself seated next to someone you don't know. You introduce yourself and go through the usual back and forth. "What do you do?", "How long have you been with the company?", "Where did you go to school?" And then...awkward silence.

At this point, the default actions are a) turn to someone else and repeat the exercise, b) take out your phone to check your messages (or send out a distress signal), or c) pretend to see someone you do know and move. None of these are great, or effective networking.

Often when we're first introduced to someone, the standard questions seem like the important pieces of information we'll need to know or remember (even if we probably won't). They seem informative and safe, likely because they are the questions we're prepared to answer ourselves. They are the verbal equivalent of exchanging LinkedIn profiles, and don't tell us much more than the statistics of our new contact. They are also (likely) not very memorable, and so a few hours or weeks later when we meet the same person, we may struggle with remembering those mundane details.

Behold a solution. This great little primer on networking and starting a meaningful conversation with a new contact. These outside-the-box suggestions for questions work because they are NOT mundane. You can start with the softball ordinary ones but adding a few of these to your roster will help when the normal pleasantries don't succeed in breaking the ice, or when you need to occupy some additional time.

I especially like, "What are you looking forward to?" This open-ended, forward-looking question can be interpreted as being about the conference event you're at, individual work goals, or life in general, so can open up a lot of areas of dialogue and give you some insight into someone's focus and priorities. Similarly, “What excites you right now?” can fulfill a similar purpose.

While I’m supportive of this approach to unusual questions, I would be wary about getting too personal too quickly. “What do you do for fun?” can sound a bit like a pick-up line rather than a work-appropriate conversation, and “Who’s your favourite superhero?” might be seen as flippant or juvenile, depending on the venue and audience (whom you don’t yet know well or at all). Maybe save these ones for a follow-up meeting.

As always, you should be prepared to answer the same question back, so think about how you will answer these if asked. You don’t have to have a speech memorized but do give some thought to what you might say. Remember that conversations always have two sides, so you should expect to participate beyond asking interesting questions.

Because you won't always be able to start with, "I love your hat!"

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